Monkey's Magical Treehouse of Awesomeness

[MonkeyGirl18]

Yesterday, I was working drive through, this lady was ordering. I asked her if her order was complete, instead of answering me, she drove off (BEFORE I GOT TO TELL HER THE TOTAL) and came to the first window.

I told her the total at the window and she disagreed. I verified the order, and I got it right, and told her that the total she thought it was as the total BEFORE tax, but, because of tax, the total went up a bit. She got mad, asked for the receipt and rips it from my hand. I bet she felt stupid after realizing I was right. But from that moment, I didn't want to do cash OR headset. It affected me for the rest of the day and it wasn't even 7am.

[MonkeyGirl18]

I don't give a shit if you're having a "rough morning" and want to be right all the damn time, but that doesn't excuse you from giving a worker a hard time because of your inability to make orders in drive through. Go inside.... or better yet, don't go to McDonalds or anywhere else in the morning. It's too early to be putting up with bitchy customers. If you can't listen, go home.

sorry for the language >-<

[Watery Star]

Sorry people are giving you such a hard time. I isolate myself when I'm in a bad mood.

[MonkeyGirl18]

I would do that if I could. But seeing as how I was at work, I can't just isolate myself to calm down or anything. I have to suck it up.

It seems my anxiety is just getting worse and worse.

[galled]

I don't get so angry or worked up about things like that if the person apologizes. I mean, I've been rude or at least come across as rude unintentionally a few times. (Like I'm in a rush and mad at someone/something, etc., and I'm all caught up in it mentally.) When I realize what's happened or how I may have come across, I'm embarrassed and ashamed. I recall apologizing, but I can also recall not doing so and thinking "it wasn't that bad." Terrible, right? Well, I admit I've done that, but in my defense, I'll say that I try not to do that ever and err on the side of caution now.

That said, I've had to deal with rude people, people who feel entitled, and outright nasty people (I worked in Hollywood). What I do is try to think about why they may be behaving like that and it always comes back to them being in over their heads. While I'm sure it's possible for stuff like this being personal, if it's someone you don't know, the chances are very low. Once I realize that it's not personal, it's a lot easier to brush off. They're the ones having the bad day or life!

[MonkeyGirl18]

The more rude customers come, the more "defensive" I become.

What I mean by defensive, I seem to look very angry all the time and shit. Like, I wouldn't smile. It's not that I'm angry or anything, I do want to smile, but because I'm so afraid of being hurt, I don't. It's an unconscious attempt at pushing people away, and I don't try to do that. Whenever I try to smile and think I'm smiling, apparently, I'm not. It's just a problem I'm trying to deal with. But customers like that lady, makes it far more difficult to change.

She never apologized. She ripped the receipt from my hand and drove off like an ass.

[galled]

Not to make light of it, but there is something known as "resting bitch face."

http://www.cnn.com/2016/02/03/health/re ... arch-irpt/

I'm not saying that's what you've got, but it's something that puts a name to what you may have observed. At least you're aware of it, you can work on it like you are.

I have had people tell my S.O. that I always seem cheerful in person and sound happy on the phone. I never realized that I came across that way because although I'm not sad inside most of the time, I don't feel like I'm overly cheerful either. I guess it's something I picked up through my life and work (I dealt with the public with public speaking etc..). It's good that you realize that if you can move to "the happy side," by at least not appearing angry it'll help every aspect of your life (the brain leads the body and the body leads the brain).

I want to tell you that we're so proud of you! It's wonderful to watch the progress you've made and continue to make. It's good that you're not only venting, but you that you see what's wrong and are actively doing things to make it better. That's the way to do it! You go girl!!

[MonkeyGirl18]

I already knew I had resting bitch face, lol. I just get weird for using the term because I don't want to cuss too much in my posts, if any. But I knew it from the moment I took a picture of myself with a neutral face and my face looks like I want to fight someone, lol.

[galled]

LOL I saw there's such thing as "resting asshole face" for guys too, but I'm not sure if it was scientifically studied.

You have a great sense of humor. If you show that side of yourself some more I'd bet everyhing from strangers' impressions of you to your anxiety would improve. Humor is the great ice breaker!

[MonkeyGirl18]

>-< Really? You think so? Thank you then.

Yeah, I would do that if I wasn't too scared of embarrassing myself.

[galled]

Absolutely! There are all kinds of humor. Self depricating humor is endearing becuase it makes fun of embarassment. But just be yourself and your humor will come out.

[MonkeyGirl18]

Well, at least I'm glad I know one person likes my humor, lol. Although I don't try to be humorous around a lot of people.

[galled]

Usually if you try, it's not funny. Just speak up if you think something is funny. You'll know if you connect when you see smiles.

[MonkeyGirl18]

I'm also very careful about it as well because my humor can also be very sarcastic. I don't want to say anything that people can take the wrong way.

[galled]

You're at least aware of who you're talking to. That's a huge benefit. I mean how many times have you seen comedians say inappropriate things? It's not funny when that happens. No one will always have funny things to say, but if you do and the time/audience is right, go for it! You may get it wrong a couple of times, but if you hit it right, it'll be a home run!